The Talk
/Have a courageous conversation with yourself. -John Maxwell
Have a courageous conversation with yourself. -John Maxwell
People who have high emotional intelligence understand that if you want to be more persuasive and even win most arguments, it's important to do two things:
· Avoid distracting, emotional mini controversies.
· Offer easy ways for people to overcome emotional objections, and more easily follow the path you want them to take.
I call this whole concept the "Emergency Exit Rule." It's about planting seeds that allow people to save face and maintain their pride--while ultimately agreeing with you.
Imagine a police detective arrests a suspect. During interrogation, he or she uses a common but controversial strategy called the Reid technique. It involves questioning frameworks that can be summarized by example, like this:
· "We know that you walked out of the store with the jewelry, but you don't seem like a bad person. Maybe you didn't realize how expensive it really was?"
· "It's clear you were intoxicated when the police pulled you over. Am I right in thinking you'd probably had only a couple of drinks, and didn't realize you might have been over the limit?"
The Emergency Exit Rule is all about giving them the easiest, most attractive way possible to back down and agree with your position.
Bill Murphy Jr. writing in Inc.
Teenagers are using TikTok (67%), Instagram (62%) and Snapchat (59%) more than other social media platforms to stay in touch with one another, according to the Pew Research Center. YouTube (95%) is their destination site for consuming media. Meanwhile, Facebook has lost most of its teen audience (from 71% in 2014 to 32%). The survey did not include chat and audio app Discord.
About a third of teens (36%) say they spend too much time on social media. Black teens were more likely to use TikTok while Hispanic teens were more likely than other groups to use WhatsApp. Read the details of the survey here and you’ll find a Washington Post article on the findings here.
Many smart people tell themselves lies like, “I do my best work at the last minute.” It’s not true. Writers sit at their desks for hours, wrestling with ideas. They ask questions, talk with other smart people over drinks or dinner, go on long walks. And then write a whole bunch more. Don’t worry that what you write is not very good and isn’t immediately usable. You get ideas when you write; you don’t just write down ideas.
Denise K. Magner writing in the Chronicle of Higher Ed
You can learn more from failure than success. (Here's why that's the case).
In failure you're forced to find out what part did not work. But in success you can believe everything you did was great, when in fact some parts my not have worked at all. Failure forces you to face reality.
Fred Brooks, author of The Mythical Man-Month
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Academic Search Premier*
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Brookings
A non-profit think tank, Brookings has a large network of scholars who produce reports and papers on a wide variety of important news topics.
Comparea
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Connected Papers
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Contact Out
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Content Gems
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Data.gov
US government data sets.
Directory of Open Access Journals
A growing database that covers only journals that are free and open to the public.
Directory of Open Access Repositories
This free site is operated by the University of Nottingham in the UK. It aggregates databases from around the world, locating open access research across disciplines.
Fact Check
A political fact checking site run by The Annenberg Public Policy Center of the University of Pennsylvania.
Feedly
Web-based and largest RSS feed. Subscribe to get new posts from a site. Uses upvotes and downvotes to learn which new articles is most relevant to the user. Useful to academic researchers looking to stay on top of new papers but also for those who want to monitor news, RSS feeds, Reddit, Twitter and podcasts. Free, but a paid account offers more features such as the ability to follow more than 100 sources and hide adverts. $6 or more a month. Compare to Inoreader.
Google Scholar*
The dominant tool in the field of research, users can set alerts for publication of new scholarly papers on particular research topics, authors, or keywords. Sometimes picks up useful preprints, theses, and dissertations. Access to the studies could be restricted. If you can’t get a particular study itself through a university/library affiliation, be sure to click “All Versions” at the bottom of the search result. Widely acknowledged as the biggest corpus in existence, one estimate puts the volume at close to 400 million articles.
Google Trends
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Hunter
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Open Knowledge Map
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Research Rabbit
Launched in 2021, it describes itself as “Spotify for papers”. Users save relevant papers to a collection. A list of recommended articles updates based on the collection. Alerts are more personalized than Google Scholar. Free.
Research Gate
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TLDR
A scientific search engine that generates one-sentence summaries of research papers.
Storyful Multisearch
Chrome browser extension that searches multiple social networking platforms at the same time. Free.
The dictatorship of data ensnares even the best of them. Google runs everything according to data. That strategy has led to much of its success. But it also trips up the company from time to time. Its cofounders, Larry Page and Sergey Brin, long insisted on knowing all job candidates’ SAT scores and their grade point averages when they graduated from college. In their thinking, the first number measured potential and the second measured achievement. Accomplished managers in their 40s were hounded for the scores, to their outright bafflement. The company even continued to demand the numbers long after its internal studies showed no correlation between the scores and job performance.
Google ought to know better, to resist being seduced by data’s false charms. The measure leaves little room for change in a person’s life. It counts book smarts at the expense of knowledge. And it may not reflect the qualifications of people from the humanities, where know-how may be less quantifiable than in science and engineering. Google’s obsession with such data for HR purposes is especially queer considering that the company’s founders are products of Montessori schools, which emphasize learning, not grades. By Google’s standards, neither Bill Gates nor Mark Zuckerberg nor Steve Jobs would have been hired, since they lack college degrees.
Kenneth Cukier and Viktor Mayer-Schönberger, writing in MIT’s Technology Review
16 simple things to do now to get a promotion this year - Fast Company
Considering professional development? Maybe prioritize this instead - Fast Company
Engineer A Winning Attitude At Work With These 7 Critical Soft Skills - Forbes
Everything you need to know about writing a resignation letter (samples included) - Fast Company
How to Prepare Your Finances Before Quitting Your Job - Wall Street Journal ($)
How Do You Know When It’s Time to Leave a Job? - Medium
How to avoid burnout without quitting your job - Women & Home
How to handle your work jerk - McKinsey
How to Quit your Job - Harvard Business Review
Planning to quit your job? 3 key things to think about first - ZDNet
Soft Skills Can Help you get ahead - Wall Street Journal ($)
'Soft skills': The intangible qualities companies crave - BBC
What These New Grads Wish They Knew before Starting Their First Jobs - Fast Company
David Brooks, in his book, The Road to Character (Random House), distinguishes between what he calls "résumé virtues" and "eulogy virtues." The former are the skills that get you good grades, good jobs, nice houses, and hefty bank accounts. The latter are what make you a good person. Though I think the distinction between skills and virtues is an important one, Brooks is wrong to imply that résumé virtues are all that we need to produce excellence at work, or that eulogy virtues are for what comes after one’s work has ceased. Eulogy virtues are just as important to becoming good doctors, good lawyers, good teachers, good nurses, good physical therapists, and even good bankers as are résumé virtues. And they are also important to becoming good children, parents, spouses, friends, and citizens. As Aristotle knew, virtue is needed for material success just as it is needed for moral success.
Always leave things better than you found them.
Lifeguard Natalie Lucas helped deliver a baby while on the job in Longmont, Colorado.
Read the story here.
There are five stages in what’s known as the “behavioural change stairway model” that take anyone from “listening to influencing behaviour”. The first stage is active listening – namely, being able to show the other person that you have taken in what they’ve said and, more importantly, have a sense of what it means to them.
Rather than focusing on what you want to say, listen to what the other person is telling you, then try to repeat it back to them. Start with, “It seems like what you’re saying is” or “Can I just check, it sounds like what you’re saying is”. If that feels too contrived, it often works simply to repeat the last sentence or thought someone has expressed (known in counselling practice as “reflecting”).
Try, “It seems like you’re feeling frustrated with this situation – is that right?” Always give the other person the opportunity to comment on or correct your assessment.
Rosie Ifould writing in The Guardian
Want to secure your Instagram and LinkedIn accounts from data leaks? PEN America offers some great advice on keeping your accounts safe.
As we grow older in the West, we generally think we should have a lot to show for our lives—a lot of trophies. According to numerous Eastern philosophies, this is backwards. As we age, we shouldn’t accumulate more to represent ourselves, but rather strip things away to find our true selves—and thus, to find happiness and peace.
Arthur C. Brooks, From Strength to Strength
Six developmental trends may be identified as a standard or a criterion against which we may compare a particular personal myth. Over the course of adolescence through middle adulthood, a personal myths should ideally develop in the direction of increasing (1) coherence, (2) openness, (3) credibility, (4) differentiation, (5) reconciliation, and (6) generative integration. The prototype of the “good story” in human identity is one that receives high marks on these six narrative standards.
Dan McAdams, The Stories We Live By
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delivr
Creates QR codes. Privacy focused.
Kaywa
5 dynamic codes for free, then $13.75 and up a month for analytics, etc.
Mashable
Article on how to create a QR code.
QR Explore
Offers a bulk QR code generator and label generator.
QR Stuff
QR code generator for both static and dynamic QR codes. Must sign up for an account first. Especially for small businesses. Free.
QRicket
Free QR code generator for static QR codes. Works especially with bit.ly and Google analytics. Free.
QRTIGER
A reliable QR Code generator that can integrate with 1000s of apps. Both for business and personal projects. Generate a static QR code for free if the content needs no editing.
Shopify
Offers a static QR code generator.
Sparq code (formally Maestro) no longer available
Unitag QR
EU company offering a QR code generator and a QR code reader. Must create an account first. Especially for small companies that conduct transactions in Euros.
Visme
Create graphics and maps just for a particular platform for social-specific content. Free for up to five maps with limited features. Paid accounts starting at $15 month. Also has a QR code generator for static codes.
Visualead
Integrate QR codes seamlessly into branded packaging. Good for marketers, small businesses, and professionals with limited graphic design skills.
Zebra QR
Create QR menus in a PDF or a landing page. Especially for dining places (cafes, restaurants, etc.)
Zxing Project
The most important thing that parents can teach their children is how to get along without them. -Frank A. Clark
5 Questions Veterans Should Ask When Negotiating a Starting Salary - Military.com
8 Reasons you should turn down that job offer - Salary.com
Don’t Waste Your Money: How to negotiate your salary/raise - ABC 27
Getting multiple job offers a great problem to have - San Diego Union Tribune
How to negotiate your salary to help with inflation - Fast Company
How to negotiate your salary: A 5 W's approach - ZDNet
How to Negotiate Your Salary When You Don't Have Any Work Experience - LifeHacker
The million-dollar mistake: Women fall short when negotiating salaries - bizwomen
Negotiating your salary- Wall Street Journal ($)
Tired of unpaid internships? Here's how to negotiate pay - MSNBC
What’s a good salary or raise to ask for right now? How to find your number in this wild job market - CNBC
Therapists often run into a curious problem during treatment: Clients aren’t very good at describing their emotions. How exactly do you express the nature of your depression? So this spring, relationship counselor Crystal Rice hit upon a clever idea. She had her clients use Pinterest, the popular picture-pinning social network, to create arrays of images that map out their feelings. It’s a brilliant epiphany: While emotions can be devilishly difficult to convey in words, they’re often very accessible via pictures. “This way we can really identify what’s going on,” Rice says.
As Rice discovered with her clients, Pinterest’s appeal is that it gives us curiously powerful visual ways to communicate, think, and remember. If you see one picture of a guitar, it’s just a guitar; but when you see 80 of them lined up you start to see guitarness. This additive power is precisely what helps Rice’s clients paint their internal worlds.
Part of the value of Pinterest is that it brings you out of yourself and into the world of things. As the Huffington Post writer Bianca Bosker argued, Facebook and Twitter are inwardly focused (“Look at me!”) while Pinterest is outwardly focused (“Look at this!”). It’s the world as seen through not your eyes but your imagination.
Granted, Pinterest encourages plenty of dubious behavior too. It can be grindingly materialistic; all those pins of stuff to buy! Marketers are predictably adrool, and as they swarm aboard, the whole service might very well end up collapsing into a heap of product shilling.
But I suspect we’ll see increasingly odd and clever ways of using Pinterest. If a picture is worth a thousand words, those collections are worth millions.
Clive Thompson, Wired Magazine
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